Tips on building comfort and engagement in seated activities

Supporting your child with engaged sitting

The above infographic shares ways to help children feel comfortable and engaged in seated activities.

What is engaged sitting?

Engaged sitting refers to the ability to stay seated and focused on an activity for a period of time. This skill doesn’t develop overnight, it builds slowly and looks different for every child. Some children may be able to sit and focus for long periods, while others may need frequent movement or breaks. All of this is okay. Like any other developmental skill, engaged sitting can be nurtured through observation, encouragement, and playful practice.

Why might some children struggle with it?

Children, especially those who are neurodivergent, may find sitting still for extended periods overwhelming or uncomfortable. This may be due to sensory sensitivities, body awareness challenges, or a genuine need for movement to regulate their attention. It’s not a sign of disobedience or laziness. It’s simply how their brain and body work together.

Instead of forcing stillness, the goal is to create an environment where sitting becomes a choice because the activity is engaging, the body feels safe, and the child’s unique needs are respected.

Ways to support your child with engaged sitting:

1. Incorporate daily movement
   Try to engage your child in 40–45 minutes of physical activity each day. Activities like cycling, jumping, dancing, or simply running around help regulate energy levels and make sitting more manageable afterward. Think of movement as preparation for focus, not a distraction from it.
   
2. Offer purposeful activities
   Choose seated tasks that have a visible or constructive outcome. Whether it’s stacking blocks, drawing, stringing beads, or helping to sort toys by color, the child should feel that their action is leading to something fun or meaningful.
   
3. Make waiting worthwhile
   Use positive reinforcement like praise, high-fives, or a small reward for sitting through an activity. Let your child know you see their effort and celebrate small wins. Remember, motivation looks different for each child, some may respond to words of encouragement, while others may prefer a sticker, a song, or a favorite snack.
   
4. Play-based sitting
   Not all sitting has to be task-oriented. Let your child sit and do what they enjoy – be it listening to a story, solving a puzzle, watching fish swim in a bowl, or playing a tablet game. These experiences help them associate sitting with calmness and interest.
   
5. Use simple visual schedules
   Visuals help provide predictability. A schedule with clear, colorful pictures can help your child understand what’s coming next. This can reduce anxiety around transitions and help them sit with more ease, knowing when their preferred activities will happen.
   
6. Break up seated activities
   Chunk long tasks into smaller, doable parts. For example, instead of expecting a child to sit for 20 minutes at a stretch, try two 10-minute sessions with a short movement break in between.
   
7. Be mindful of seating options
   Sometimes, discomfort from chairs or tables can affect a child’s willingness to sit. Try different setups – floor sitting with cushions, a wobble chair, or a foot rest, until you find what suits your child best.
   
8. Create a calm and inviting environment
   Minimize noise and visual distractions in the space where your child is expected to sit. Keep materials within reach. Add soft lighting or calming music if that helps them feel more regulated.
   
9. Observe and follow their lead
   Watch when and where your child is most naturally engaged in sitting. Is it during meals, while playing with certain toys, or while watching a sibling? Use those insights to build routines around what already works.
   
10. Practice patience
    Remember, engaged sitting is not a skill every child picks up at the same pace – and that’s perfectly okay. Don’t compare your child to others. Instead, focus on progress over perfection.

The infographic shared above gives a visual overview of these strategies, with practical ideas you can try at home. Use it as a guide, and modify it based on your child’s comfort and preferences.

Want to learn more?
You can also check out our article on Tips to Improve Attention Tolerance in Children. This resource builds on the ideas in this guide and provides even more support for families navigating attention-related concerns.

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Acknowledgment:
We would like to thank Renu K Manish for supporting the content creation of this infographic and article.

Disclaimer:
This guide is for informational purposes only. Please consult a qualified health practitioner for proper guidance tailored to your child’s specific needs.